Breaking Up With Avoidance and Embracing Your Fears

  "Don't tell me the sky's the limit when there are footprints on the moon" Paul Brandt

There are things I've always had a fear of. Spiders, especially when they are on the ceiling. Heights, I've gone to great lengths to avoid them. Including taking the elevator not the stairs, even if it means wasting precious time waiting for the door to open. Confrontation, now there's a big one that's tough to avoid. But it can be done by deciding to hold in how you really feel and just be agreeable, avoid your feelings. Being myself. I struggled with that one for years by following the crowd and taking the road with the most traffic. Fear and avoidance are friends. They dance around together in your head and love it when you decide to take the safe way out. In fact I believe that fear gets stronger as you avoid the situations you fear the most. So what happens when you stare it in the face? When you decide to drop every fear and take the stairs, take that road less traveled by. That's when the magic starts to happen. That's when fear and avoidance decide to go their separate ways and you embrace fear like it was a long lost friend.

 Make a list of all the things you would do if you weren't afraid. Where would go? What would you say? Most important, how would you feel?  

Just as I always knew what I was afraid of, where my fear lived, I also knew what I wanted to go after. It was time to break out of that box and begin believing in my dreams. I simply asked myself the question, what would I do if I weren't afraid? Taking a practical approach to the question, rather than deciding to go skydiving, I made a list. I suggest you do the same. Make a list of all the things you would do if you weren't afraid. Where would go? What would you say? Most important, how would you feel? Take in that list for everything it is worth. That list represents your wishes, dreams and your heart's desires. Tack it up where you can see everyday and read it. Share it with your family and friends. Having a supportive group, even a mentor fuels the belief that you can make it happen! Then step by step begin to take action.

The significant changes within our lives are always subtle. They begin to take shape as we begin to grow and step out of our fear based thinking. Maybe you've always wanted to write a children's book but felt it was too far fetched of a dream. Start and learn the process, make the time. Open the doors to understanding it. Once you realize it is possible the universe will support it. That is true for any dream.

As we begin to embrace our fears and take action anything becomes possible. When I think of how far I've come and where I still have yet to go, it's exciting. Never stop growing, never stop believing and never for one minute stop dreaming. In order to fly we must let go of what is weighing us down.