During most of my time spent working with clients, they have already confirmed in their hearts and minds that they are ready to toss items with hurricane force wind. They are willing to take a long hard look at their homes and see clearly that the clutter is holding them back, and zapping their precious time and energy. In the case where they are not fully convinced, we do a bit of a deep dive into what might be holding them back and suddenly it clicks as to why they were hesitant. That is a magic moment, and one of freedom.
If you are reading this and don’t feel any connection or belief that you can reach this level of clarity within your own space, I have a few suggestions.
Ask yourself what you feel is the worst that can happen.
What if you finally decided to donate that set of dishes that were handed down to you? Or donate all of those books you had plans of someday reading but you have 0 interest in? I have some news for you- there is no declutter monster that is going to show up at your front door asking you to reconsider. There is no committee of people that will judge you for honoring your space. If you happen to come across anyone who does however, politely let them know that your home requires you to be joyful, present and happy. That by removing whatever is holding you back is your choice, and yours alone.
When you share a space with someone honor their choices to hold on or let go. Do not judge their decisions around their choice. You can gently remind them however to always choose peace of mind over their stuff.
Does the clutter represent the person you are in this moment or who you strive to be?
This question can be a bit of an emotional one because it asks us to take a look at what isn’t working in our lives, or if we are where we truly want to be. There is a deep connection to what is happening within our space and how we feel emotionally. Clutter can at times be a firm representation of how we are feeling internally.
If you strive for feelings of calm and better organization, take a minute to walk around your home and see if the space mirrors those feelings back to you.
If you are looking to feel more joy and ease at home, look closely at what type of clutter is piling up. It could be right by the entryway, which is the last thing we see before we leave our homes and the first thing we see when we return. Taking a moment to identify the areas of our home that are not representing what we want called into our lives, will shift the energy in favor of what we do want.
Does your closet represent who you are in this moment? Does the clothing and accessories speak to you and the life you are creating for yourself? It is so imperative to show up as ourselves. To feel confident and comfortable and joy by the items we are holding onto.
Ask yourself if this is the vision you had for your living space.
Think back to when you first began cultivating your space, and the hopes you had for that space. If you never felt connected to the space in a way that you hope for, now could be the time to tap into those feelings.
Make a list of feelings, words and phrases that represent all those ideals of what your space represents within your life, and then begin from there. Make choices on what will stay and what will go from that place of knowing. This conscious exercise is meant to focus your attention on intentional feelings that will translate to a physical space mirroring your highest self.
Our lives are shaped by so much. Give yourself room to breathe in the space that you are living, sleeping and making memories in.
Always living light,